But This Was Forever … Right?

We have relationships. Some are long lasting; the friend you’ve known since you were nine and with whom, four decades later, still chill and get silly. Some are short lived; the job that didn’t quite fit, the employee who needed another direction, the partnership that fizzled out, the lover whose affections waned.

Pondering on relationships, some may not realize that it is those short-lived connections that may resonate the loudest. They are the teachers, the guides, and the safety valves that lead us toward our higher purpose. These are the ones that, typically, hurt the most and that pain is what matters. It is that pain that illuminates, if we are willing to open ourselves to see it, what we truly want.

Everyone comes into your life for a reason. Be grateful.

Amid the anger at wasting time and money training the wrong person, resentment at being fired, disgruntlement at that ersatz partner, and heartache over love lost, find solace in the reality that there is reason.

Every failure has a purpose. Be grateful.

There is never a need to place or accept blame when things don’t work out. We do this only to assuage our own misguided feelings of inadequacy. To be a true leader of yourself, recognize the reality of the situation, be honest, and move forward. Understand that each moment in your life has the invaluable potential to enlighten and to guide. Resent nothing; cherish everything.

We can never control the actions or the words of another nor can we control the circumstances of life; we can, however, control our reactions to them. Enter, and exit, every relationship with loving kindness and compassion and you will be a truly great leader.


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2 Responses to But This Was Forever … Right?

  1. I totally agree Tobey. Our ego convinces us to stay in broken relationships much longer than is necessary. First, we need the clarity to see that and then we need the courage to take action. It’s something we can work on through meditation and introspection. I’m a work in progress. Namaste.

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